How To Decide What Job You Do You Want
All right. Welcome to this week’s post, how yo decide what career you want, what job you want.
If you have ever doubted if you’re in the right career if you’ve considered changing careers but you’re not sure what to do or you’re feeling confused, uncertain about what to do next, this post is for you.
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The idea of the confusion comes from thinking that there is a right or wrong decision. But what if there was no bad decision or right or wrong?
You just make the decision and then you still create your life from the results of whatever you choose.
You’re still in control of whether or not that decision is good or bad.
What if whatever you picked was the right decision because you decided to make itself?
In life, we’re taught to choose the “right path,” but that right or wrong isn’t meant for decisions like, “Should I do project management or business analysis?” OR, “Should I go to chef school or should I be a tour guide?”
Those decisions, there’s no right or wrong. The right or wrong comes into play when it’s like, “Should I steal that or should I pay for it,” OR, “Should I lie or should I tell the truth?”
Those are very obvious right or wrongs.
However, choosing a career path that is no right or wrong.
You could choose either one and decide to make that the best decision.
You are always choosing something, so you’re either choosing your fear or choosing your comfort, that’s confusion and overwhelm because that’s more comfortable, or you’re choosing to take a step forward and that step might be scary.
Clarity comes from action, not from thoughts.
For example, I went and got my motorbike license and I rode a motorbike for about a year.
I went on a few long road trips, failed the test the first time, but then succeeded getting my license the second time, and I did not like it.
I gave it a good try.
I did it for a year and I decided that’s not for me, but I would’ve never known that had I not done it.
If I hadn’t had done that, I might be sitting here today thinking, “I really should get my motorcycle license. It’s really something I’ve wanted to do for a while. I really should do it, but I don’t know if it’s the right decision.”
That’s how I got clarity around whether or not riding a motorbike was for me. So that’s the only way you can get clarity because I could read a book on riding a motorbike.
I could read a lot of books. I could watch people doing it, but the only way I’m going to know if I really like it is going and getting on that bike, giving it a good try, going on a few long trips, seeing how I feel, assessing if I like it or don’t like it, and then I get to redecide.
Do I want to keep riding a motorbike or do I want to go back to driving my car?
Clarity comes from action, not from thinking, not from reading a book, not from consuming information. It comes from doing.
The caveat is you need to be willing to feel that discomfort when you’re making that decision and you need to be willing to be a bit uncomfortable as you’re figuring it out along the way because that’s how you move forward.
So yes, it was very uncomfortable for me to learn to ride a motorbike and it was uncomfortable for the first going off, and even like at the end of the year I was pretty comfortable on the bike, but I didn’t want to ride it anymore.
It does take discomfort, especially in the beginning.
Most people believe that you need to choose the right thing and that you’re choosing it for the rest of your life.
That’s another big heavy thing people put on themselves.
They think, “Oh, well, if I choose this, I need to be absolutely sure it’s right,” and that’s why they put so much pressure on the decision. But that’s not true. It’s a complete myth.
You can decide to do something for six months and then redecide. “Do I still like it? Is this what I thought it was going to be? Do I want to do it?”
OR you can decide to do something for one year. In the grand scheme of things one year of your life or six months of your life, not a super long time and you can redecide.
Making that decision, you might think, “Oh, well, I’m going to …” Some people, they’ll say, “I need to think about this,” and they’ll think about it for six months.
They’ll literally think about something for six months and then make the decision, but when they make the decision they’re no farther ahead.
They think they are because they think they have a really well thought out decision and that waiting all that time was really useful and beneficial.
But really, it got them the same thing in the end. And less, because they have fewer results to assess.
They have fewer data points to make a good decision now, like, “Do I like it? Do I want to continue or do I want to change it? Do I want to go back to what I was doing?”.
I can’t stress enough.
Doing is your fastest way to clarity.
Now it feels better to say, “I just need more time to think about it. I just need to sleep on it or I just need more information first.”
But what will more information get you?
What will more time thinking about it actually get you?
It’s actually going to get you more confusion and it’s just going to get you to overthink.
And the more information you have, the more confused we are. So this is a really hard concept for most people to get, and it just means that everything in your life takes longer.
If you made a decision right now and you had your own back with whatever that decision was, so you said, “I got me. Whatever I decide I’m going to support myself. There is no right or wrong when choosing a career path,” then you would make your decisions very differently.
You would be like, “Okay, this is the decision I’m making. I am in control of whether I make this decision a success. I’m going to go for it for six months, a year, and then I’m going to recommit and then I’ll to redecide.”
Most people, they’re going to read this post and they’re going to say, “You know, this is really interesting. Yeah, what you’re saying is really interesting,” and then they’re going to go back to thinking about it some more.
If that’s you, just keep in mind that if you want to think about it, you’re staying comfortable, you’re staying out of fear, you’re not having courage.
You need to have the courage to take the next step, and that is how you’re going to move faster in your life.
You’re going to get more done. You’re going to achieve more. You’re going to get to know yourself better or stay safe and think about it.
The choice is up to you.
If you want to learn more about getting clarity on what next steps to take, I have free training on how to get clarity. This is a free workshop.
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It’s more of an in-depth look at how to gain clarity, and I look forward to seeing you there.
Thank you so much! I hope you enjoyed.
I’ll see you next time and I can’t wait!
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– XO Natalie