How To Recover From Getting Fired
So, you’ve just been fired, and you’re feeling pretty crappy about it. I get it. In this post, I’ll talk about why being fired is not as big a deal as you think, and what to do next, and how to deal with it.
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First, I want to tell you that I have been fired before, and trust me, you do recover, and everything works out fine, so don’t worry about it.
It’s not that big of a deal. So you were fired. It happens every day. In a few months from now, it’s not going to matter to you.
So, what are you making it mean?
Are you making it mean that you were an awful employee that no one wants?
Or maybe that they let you go and you let the company down?
I’m guessing it’s something along these lines, and that’s probably why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling about it. What if it just didn’t work out?
It wasn’t are right fit, you weren’t the right fit for them, and they weren’t the right fit for you?
That’s okay. You will find an even better role.
The reason that you were upset about it is because you have made it mean something in your life. You’ve made it mean something about you as a person, and it doesn’t have to. The likelihood is that it just wasn’t the right fit, and that’s nobody’s fault.
It was a learning experience, and it’s now done.
Given that, how can you spot the right fit for next time, so you don’t have to go through this again, and this doesn’t need to happen again?
I’ve come up with a few points that in my experience mean that you are going to be the right fit.
You enjoy the tasks that you’re doing each day. By that, I mean you don’t love every minute of every day, that doesn’t happen very often, but you enjoy at least 80% of what you’re doing, and maybe there’s about 20% of the things that you don’t love, but you understand that they’re necessary for your role.
You have a good relationship with your boss. For me, this is important.
It’s been personally one of the most important things to me, for me to be a good fit for the role, and having a good relationship means that I’m able to go to him when I need help. I feel challenged, but if I do hit a roadblock, I can ask for help.
Some of these things are going to be more important to you, and some are going to be more important to me. It just depends on your work style.
You have a reasonably good relationship with your co-workers. The vibe is good, it’s not a toxic environment for you. You enjoy interacting with most of the people. Now, of course, we can’t always get along with everybody, and that’s fine, but you know what I mean by this.
You have the skills and the knowledge to get your job done, and if you don’t, you feel comfortable learning and sometimes you’re pushed out of your comfort zone, but you’re not completely off base.
You know what you need to do, or you know where you can go to ask for help.
Some of these things might be more important for you than they are for someone else, but all of them together equal a perfect mix of work happy.
So, what staying in a bad job can do for you anyway?
Emotionally, for the long term, it’s going to take a toll on you, so the fact that you were fired is actually a blessing in disguise. Staying at a bad job could lead you to health problems caused by stress, it could lead you to arguing with your spouse, your family when you get home, yelling at your kids, not having any time to be with your friends.
It’s very rare for someone to have loved their job so much and have been let go. That doesn’t often happen.
Normally, there’s a good reason. Sometimes layoffs happen, and there’s usually notice involved, and you get a severance, and you have time to find another position. If you were let go, chances are were you weren’t very happy.
Chances are you knew it was going to happen, you probably had a warning or two, and chances are that you were not the right fit for that role.
Sometimes when people are let go, they actually feel relieved.
They have a sigh of relief, and they’re like, “Oh thank goodness.”
I know that’s what happened to me. They might feel a bit of fear, as well, but that’s okay. That’s normal. It’s kind of like what am I going to do next?
But if you think about it, that’s really exciting, because you can now do anything you want.
In the grand scheme of things, if you weren’t happy, then this probably means that it’s the best thing that could’ve happened to you. It simply means that you are now in a better position to find your dream job, to figure out what it is you do want, and the place that is going to be the right fit for you, because it wasn’t working out at that place where you were fired from.
It doesn’t matter who broke up with who. The end result is that you are no longer with that company.
So at the exact time you were getting fired, you could’ve been thinking in your head, “I’ve had enough of this. I quit.”
Just happened that they got their words out first. In the end, it worked out the same, and you are going to be just fine.
And there we have it.
I hope you’re feeling better if you were just fired, or you do have some steps to take.
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