How To Improve Interview Skills – The New UNIQUE SECRET System To Crush Your Next Interview

 
 

Hi guys! This week’s post is how to improve your interview skills, some concrete things you can do, and why you might not be nailing the interviews now.

 

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The goal of this post is for you to direct your brain space, your mind on only the things that are going to help you, and avoid the things that are time-wasters.
 

Because there’s a lot of things I see people doing that are time-wasters before they prepare, before they go for interviews.
 

And they’re doing the same thing over and over and that’s why they keep failing the interview.
 
 

 
 

The first point is to check-in with yourself.

 

How are you feeling about the interview?
 

If you’re having a moment where you are nervous because you’re thinking about the past interviews, check-in with yourself and ask yourself what are you making those failures mean?
 

I have a post where I talk about rejection and getting over rejection and overcoming rejection, I talk about how, just because you were rejected, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything different about your value OR the value that you bring.
 

But if you are taking that into the interview with you, and a lot of people do that, they’ll take past rejections in with them and they’ll make the mean, “Oh, I didn’t get the last one. I wonder, like, I hope they like me. I hope it works this time.”
 

But really you got that underlying feeling of, “I’m not good enough because I didn’t get the last ones.”
 

That’s going to show up, and you’re not going to be able to hide that even if you think you are.
 
 

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You might think you’re a master at it, but the results don’t lie.

 

If you’re not crushing the interviews, it’s because you probably are bringing something with you from past ones that you failed.
 

And it’s because of what you’re making that mean.
 

I strongly encourage you to go read the post of how to overcome your fear of rejection and failure and also interview purgatory how to get out of it.
 

Those are two good resources if you have failed interviews in the past and you think you might be bringing something to the table for future interviews.
 
 

 
 

Point number two.

 

What is your true belief in the results you are able to create and how aligned you are with the role that you’re interviewing for?
 

How strongly do you believe that you’re the right candidate for that role?
 

And how strongly do you believe that you’re going to do the best job they’ve ever seen?
 

Where’s your belief in yourself on a scale of one to 10?
 

Do you believe you suck OR do you believe you’re amazing? 10 being amazing, okay.
 

And just be honest, where are you on that scale?
 

Maybe you do feel great about your accomplishments, but for some reason, you can’t get the words out.
 

Maybe you’re afraid of people judging you and you don’t know how they’re judging you, and you’re thinking about what they might be thinking, and that’s becoming a problem for you.
 

But when you’re grounded in your own capability, your own value, and your own ability to deliver results, then you’ll be able to speak from that place.
 

And you won’t have those issues.
 

That’s why you need to check in on yourself and your belief and your ability to do the job.
 
 

 
 

Point number three: Would you hire you?

 

If the answer is yes, then list as many reasons as you can as to why that will help you build up your confidence.
 

Your main focus.
 

Most people’s main focus is on themselves in an interview.
 

They’re thinking, “I hope they like me, I hope that what I have to say is valuable, I hope I can say the right things. Have I memorized my scripts enough? I probably should go over my stories again. I should probably practice those answers again. I need to do more.”
 

It’s probably some sort of mindset like that.
 

And the thoughts are probably always on you.
 

If you’re in this phase, then I invite you to shift it because it’s very easy to get really nervous and put yourself under a lot of pressure when you’re thinking about yourself and how you’re going to be judged and what they might think about you.
 

We don’t know what they’re thinking about you, but if you’re thinking that they’re not going to like you ahead of time, the chances of them not liking you goes up.
 

OR if you’re thinking, “I don’t think I’m really qualified. There are probably other candidates that are better.”
 

If you’re thinking that, the likelihood of them thinking that goes up because that’s what you exude, you don’t know you’re doing it.
 
 

 
 

It’s normally unconscious, but results don’t lie.

 

If you didn’t get the job, something’s off, could be any of those things, depending on who you are, what you’re thinking, what your beliefs are.
 

That’s what I help you to uncover because if you don’t know what your beliefs are, then you’re going to show up with those unconscious beliefs and you’re going to bring them into the room and you don’t even know you are.
 

It’s not your fault, you just don’t know. So that’s what I help you do is I show those to you.
 

And I’m like, “This is the problem, this is why you’re not nailing it.”
 

You can come and say, “Yeah, but I did everything right, I said everything right, I said all the right words.” results don’t lie.
 
 

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I want you to think about it as if you already have the job.

 

If you already have the job, they’d already offered it to you and this was just a meeting to discuss the logistics. How would you approach it?
 

What would you ask?
 

What would you want to know so that you could for sure be successful in this role and deliver 10 times what they expected of you?
 

Because if you’re going in there with the mindset of, “I just need to know what I need to do to be successful here, I know I’m going to be able to help I know my skills apply, I know I’m able to do it, I know I can help you, I know that I really like this company.”
 

That’s going to be more likely to get you the job than if you’re thinking, “I’m not sure if I can do it, there are other better candidates than me, they’re judging me.”
 

I don’t mean to make fun of it, but that’s mostly what people are thinking.
 

They don’t know they are though. They’re not conscious. That’s why we do coaching.
 

That’s why coaching helps you?
 

Because I can see what you can’t see, and it’s not your fault, nothing’s gone wrong. Your brain is just on default. It’s okay, mine is too.
 
 

 
 

Point number four: How do you respond to curveballs?

 

A curveball can come in many different directions from any different direction.
 

And I’ve had a ton of clients who have had a ton of curveballs thrown at them.
 

And if you’re not grounded and solid in your own value and your own self-confidence, that curveball will throw you right off and you will fail that interview because you didn’t get one question or you thought something that someone said meant that they weren’t interested OR somebody’s reaction affected you.
 

But the truth is none of those things can actually affect you.
 
 

 
 

It’s just your thought about what they did.

 

I had a client who, brilliant woman, she went in for an interview and these two guys are sitting there, in suits on their phones, they weren’t even paying attention to her.
 

She was talking, you know, they’d ask her a question and then they glance down at their phone and she would answer.
 

But how do you think you would feel honest, if you go into a room when people are not paying attention, there are two guys they’re not paying attention, going on looking on their phone and asking you questions, just sitting back casually.
 

That affected her, she made that mean that she was not interesting, that she didn’t have value to offer, and that she was the one with the problem.
 

That’s what she made that mean.
 
 

 
 

And you know, maybe you would’ve made it mean the same thing.

 

What I suggested was she did have value to offer, she would have been outstanding at the role, she was very capable.
 

And she had all the right skill sets and she was meant for the role, but they were not giving her the attention and the presence that she deserved.
 

I asked her, “How do you think you would react if you walked in there and you were 100% grounded in your value, and you knew that what you had to offer was valuable and that they needed to hire you? How do you think you would have reacted if you were really certain in your belief and you hadn’t to let them shake you?”
 

‘Cause their reaction OR how they behaved what she made that mean made her spiral downward.
 

And she said, “That’s a really good point.”
 

She said, “I would probably get up and say, ‘Look, this is really important to me, and if you don’t have time to pay attention to this interview right now and be present, then please let me know and we can reschedule it at a further date and time when you have the time to dedicate to this discussion because this is important to me.'”
 
 

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I applaud her because honestly, yeah, why not?

 

I mean, do you want to work for a couple of people who are not even paying attention to you in the interview who are ignoring you?
 

Imagine how they’re going to be on the job.
 

And that’s setting a boundary, that’s walking in and saying, “You know what, this is important to me, this is me, and this is not okay with me that you’re not present here paying attention. If this is not serious to you, then I’m going to walk away because I am serious about my job.”
 

Do you see the difference there? You can either allow somebody to throw you off OR you can stand up and decide what’s okay for you.
 

And so people can get thrown off in many ways, people can look like they’re not paying attention, OR people can look like, you know, off in space.
 

I had one client who the interviewer kept asking her before she was even finished her conversation, “Are you done yet, are you done yet?”
 
 

 
 

That would irritate me too.

 

But the point is if she was really grounded in her own value, in her own ability to deliver results, do this job, and it was really important to her how she showed up, and this person was treating her like that she would have a different response than she did because our initial response is to shut down and be like, “Sorry, are my answers too long? Am I bothering you?”
 

But really she was the one there for the interview and if she didn’t want to work with someone like that anyway, she could say, “Yeah, I’m actually not done yet, and I would appreciate it if you wait until I am done, I will let you know.”
 

And this is just standing up for yourself and being like, “This is me, this is what I offer.”
 

And when people treat you disrespectfully to notice that, and instead of shrinking down and assuming that they’re right and you’re wrong, stand in your own value.
 

And we know that we know when you’re grounded and standing in it because you will respond differently automatically, you will respond with calm confidence about you that says, “This is actually not okay with me, and this is why.”
 

OR even this is just not okay with me.
 
 

 
 

But I even had another client.

 

Like people sometimes really don’t respect people like job aplicants, they really don’t.
 

She ran around town trying to figure out where the interview was, they kept giving her the wrong building and changing the time on her.
 

And then when she got there, she waited for an hour.
 

And I was thinking, look, if you were, you know, what she wanted to do in the future, director of product management OR whatever her future title was, I’m like, if that was you, would you chase them around for hours and then wait for an hour for them to interview you?
 

OR would you say, “My time is valuable, and if you’re not going to figure out the time to tell me when I need to be there and if it’s not going to be accurate, then I’m sorry, but I’m not going to be able to interview for that job. It’s not going to work for me.”
 

What does your future self actually say?
 

And who do you want to become?
 

Do you want to be somebody who was pushed around?
 

Is that who you are?
 

OR are you, somebody, now OR in the future who you want to work towards being in whatever role you want to have, how does that person show up?
 
 

 
 

I went on a bit of a tangent because the topic was how do you respond to curveballs?

 

But ultimately the answer to how you respond to curveballs is either you have a strategy if you don’t know the answer to something you don’t make it mean that you’re stupid OR that you’re not good enough.
 

And you just, you decide how you’re going to think about it if you don’t know the answer to a question.
 

You can say, “Okay, maybe I don’t know that but I know enough to do this job, I know more than enough. I can still add value.”
 

You don’t let it derail you.
 

It’s like if you drop your phone and you crack the screen and then you’re like, “Might as well smash it. I mean, it’s cracked now, might as well smash the whole thing.”
 

It’s kind of like saying that.
 

You want to have a strategy for how you’re going to respond if you do get a curveball and you don’t know how to handle it.
 

A strategy for how to think about it so you don’t get thrown off completely.
 

And then the other answer to any curveball is basically standing in your own value and being like, “What am I okay with? What’s important to me, how am I going to respond as my strongest, most confident self?”
 

Because we assume that just because you’re the candidate going for the interview, that you’re the person who is always the one who has to bend and you know, be accommodating to them.
 

And sometimes yes, but within reason.
 

Because you need to set your own expectations and boundaries too.
 

‘Cause you’re going to be working there, you don’t want to be messed around.
 
 

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The fifth point is how can you add more value OR show that you’re adding more value than you’re asking to be paid.

 

What’s the maximum value that could be added in that position?
 

What’s possible for that position?
 

And that’s one of the questions that I encourage you to ask.
 

If you want to hire an average candidate, what would they do?
 

If you want to hire an above-average candidate who will be compensated more, what would that person do?
 

How would they behave differently?
 

How would they think differently?
 

How would they add more value?
 

And so when you can become that person who understands how to add maximum value, you know how to ask the right questions, you know how to answer in a way that shows you’ve added maximum value in the past, then you become a candidate who sets yourself up to not only get the offer.
 

But then negotiate more salary after the fact because they are already decided that you’re the no brainer candidate because you’ve already explained to them the amount of value that you’d add and you’ve shown them the way that you think.
 

And this is something that I work with my clients, I teach you how to set yourself up to add 10 times more value at least than what you’re being asked to be paid.
 

And then you become the no brainer candidate.
 
 

 
 

And that’s how I work with my clients.

 

I want you to have at least 10 times more value than what you’re going to pay me to help you achieve this.
 

And this is how I operate. I’m always about over-delivering because that’s the only way that I want to do business.
 

It’s the most fun for me,
 

I get to help you achieve 10 times more than what you expected to, and then you get to go and help your organization do that as well.
 

And it feels really good, genuine, and authentic, and you don’t feel like you’re selling you feel like you’re giving.
 

If that sounds good to you, you can sign up below for my free training, it’s called “Get A Better Job In 30 Days.”
 

It gives you everything you need to know from the opportunities phase to set yourself up for the promotion phase.
 

And so you can get that below.

 
 

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In this training:

 

• We’re going to go over the opportunities and how to get infinite opportunities, so you’ll never have to worry about where you are getting your next opportunity from.

 

• You going to find out how to crush your interviews and how to focus on what you can control to nail those interviews.

 

• Also, how to get a win no matter what, how to feel likeable, so whether they like you or they don’t, how you’re still going to feel intact, and how you’re still going to feel confident in yourself to keep going to ultimately get to your goal.

 

• We’re going to talk about mastering salary negotiations so that you can make the money that you want to make over the course of your lifetime. We’re talking five, ten years out, what is it that you want to be doing.

 

• You’re probably thinking pretty small right now if you’re like most people. I want to challenge you to think bigger.

 

• And the last thing we’re going to talk about setting up your promotion, so, the things you need to be focused on right now in order to get where you actually want to go.

 

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And remember, the current system isn’t perfect, but you can outsmart it. I’m here to prove to you that you do have what it takes.

 

I’ll see you next time and I can’t wait!

 

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