In this post, we’ll talk about 3 things you can do to make sure your body language is speaking the language of confidence:
- Be at ease with yourself.
- Release attachment.
- Interview them.
I’m Natalie Fisher – Speaker and Career Coach to new graduates.
I help recent grads feel confidently in charge of their careers and get the jobs they want (even if they have limited experience) by helping them master their interviewing skills.
Body language is a subconscious thing. There is so much to be paying attention to during an interview, that body language is something that just happens and most people are not self aware about what body language they are speaking. It comes down to your energy and your vibe.
What I mean by this is: Have you ever been in a room with someone who’s really nervous? It might be obvious because they are fidgeting or moving around a lot, but to them they may not have any idea they are, because they are so engrossed in their own feelings. That’s an extreme example, but it makes a difference to the interviewers.
Let’s talk about the 3 things you can do to make sure your body language is speaking the language of confidence:
If you’re not feeling too confident about your interview right now, go and read my post on how to be confident in interviews, and that will help you to get prepared in the right way so that you can feel more confident.
➢ Confidence comes from how well prepared you are, and from being self aware and at ease.
Something as simple as taking some deep belly breaths before the interview will make you feel better.
➢ Being at ease with yourself will mean that you give off a relaxed vibe, which will make interviewers feel at ease with you which is what they want.
They don’t’ want to feel tension and nerves in the room because that’s uncomfortable for them too.
So how do you “be chill?” Natalie, I know that’s easy to say, but how do you actually do it? Well yes, I do get that…The secret to this is to:
2. Release attachment.
➢ This is the biggest struggle most people have.
The main reason why people feel nervous is that they are attached to the outcome. They want the job sooo bad and it shows.
➢ But the right attitude to have is actually that of curiosity.
Whenever I would go into an interview I would have the mentality of curiosity. I would say to myself: “I wonder what this company will be like, I wonder what type of work they really need done in this role, I wonder how I can help.” With that frame, I’m not focusing so much on “I hope they like me,” or “I wonder if they’ll like me (because that’s where most people go),” but “I wonder how I can help them” and whatever happens, happens.
➢ The secret here is knowing that you don’t need to get attached to one single opportunity because you know there are more available out there for you through the creation method.
I talk a lot about creating opportunities vs. competing for them, so releasing that attachment helps you feel at ease and calm about the opportunity. You can still be excited, happy, and curious about it, but just relax and let them see who you really are when you’re not stressed or nervous. They’ll either like you or not, and either is totally fine.
3. Interview them.
➢ This is a big mistake that people make that drastically affects the outcome of their decision.
➢ Remember that you are interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you.
It’s a conversation. You want to find out what they need, what kind of things they need addressed, and what problems they need solved in the role you’re interviewing for, so that you can talk better about them and their immediate needs.
➢ You want to be able to speak their language.
This makes you engaging and when you’re able to talk to them about things that are happening right now for them. Then, you instantly become interesting and someone who they want to talk more with. Getting into specifics of what projects are on the go right now and what priorities they have is a great way to stand out among other candidates and put yourself in a league of your own!
➢ When you come at it from the perspective of you’re interviewing them, you change the way you approach the interview and you naturally start appearing more calm, chill, and confident.
You’re there to help, not to question whether or not they like you.
So there you have it: a few key lessons in body language for an interview.
Thank you for reading! And remember that answering questions is one thing, but there is a lot more to interviewing than just answering the questions.
In fact, if all you do is answer the questions alone, you’ve already lost at the interview.
There is a whole interview strategy at play, and if you’d like to learn more, you can get started with me by clicking the link below to grab my free guide: